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Are you a relationship killer?

by BOGGURU


Nothing kills a relationship more than bad communication. Here are a few very common communication habits that a lot of us tend to use on autopilot and that can really sabotage our relationship and our happiness in the long term...



Rolling Your Eyes When Your Partner Is Talking to You:

This is one of the most common communication habits that can damage your relationship. We all do it when we lose our temper, we just can't help it. Well, if you want to improve your relationship and increase its satisfaction and your intimacy, then you should break this bad habit and replace it with something more constructive. This behavior will not offer you the solution to your problems; it will only make things worse.

Stonewalling:

Stonewalling is basically the way in which you put a barrier (a stone wall) between you and your partner when you're in the middle of a fight; you just get silent and refuse to engage in constructive dialogue or share your feelings.

Avoiding conversation, even if you don't agree with the topic, is not a way to solve your problems. Just talk things through and come up with feasible solutions.

Refusing to Apologise:

When you do something wrong, just admit your mistake and apologize. This is the right way to do it. Don't be too proud and don't refuse to admit your mistakes! Just take responsibility for your actions, assume the consequences and work on solving your problems. Let go of your exaggerated ego and act in a more assertive way.

Sarcasm:

There's no need to be sarcastic when you're having a fight with your significant other. You should work on solving your problem, not on making it worse. Sarcasm is actually "a sharp, bitter, or cutting expression or remark; a bitter taunt," and even though sometimes it can be funny, there are times when this behavior is inappropriate.

Bickering:

Bickering means arguing about petty and trivial matters or more specifically about the things that really don't count, that are insignificant. It doesn't really matter who said what or when they said it, it's more important to figure out where you are now and where you are heading. Focus on solving your problems, not on making them worse! Don't blame only the other person for everything that goes wrong in your relationship!

Walking Out of The Room:

This point is very similar with stonewalling but while a stonewaller refuses to talk during an argument, here I'm talking about those people who leave the room when their partner is talking, simply because they don't like what they are hearing. This is not the best way to deal with different issues that may appear in any relationship. At least stay there and listen to what your significant other has to say; they might have a point and they might even be right.


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