A lot has been said about the ideal way to prepare your woman for a steamy night of passion. From indulging in prolonged foreplay to hitting the passion-pinnacle to merely kissing and cuddling to arouse your lover ...here are a few traits of the perfect 'love-maker. '
Most lovers tend to ignore the fact that for a satisfying act of love-making, the base work has to emanate from a woman's brain. You'll be surprised to know that without even the slightest form of touching you can make your woman experience a sense of heightened arousal that is usually synonymous with physical intimacy. 'Emotional sex' is as gratifying as 'physical sex. Making your lady love experience the same rush of passion without even a single touch is definitely possible but requires a high degree of understanding between the couple.
Sex expert Dr. Mahinder Watsa says, "Sex starts in the brain, much before it culminates in the bed. Especially in women, the brain needs to be geared up emotionally for a satisfying communion as it is an equal player like the body in the game of love."
On the other hand, it is also known that for men 'lovemaking' involves getting physically close, while women dig emotional intimacy. "The 4Ts in Trust, Time, Talk and Touch - form the foundation for passionate love making," states Dr. Watsa, adding, "The fourth T cannot be successful until you have done the required ground work using the first three Ts." To prepare for a passionate grand finale, indulge in some 'emotional sex' triggered off by first three Ts - Trust, Time, Talk.
Here's all that you can do to prepare your lady love for some 'emotional sex' that will surely lead to some hot and steamy action between the sheets. It might appear too much of an effort, but once she's just there you'll have enough time to bask in the glory of your success. So, get started...
Work on your attitude
The preparation for a sexual session can often leave one exhausted, so it's important that you have the right romantic attitude. "A man with a romantic attitude won't mind testing his limits to woo his lay love," says Priya Bakshi, a relationship expert adding, "He would have the heart to shower all his love, affection, care and passion on his lady." Remember that without a romantic attitude, even the most lavish dinner dates and exquisite presents appear unimpressive and superficial. So, if you are 'head over heels' in love with your gal, be amorous and shower her with unlimited and unconditional love and affection. Communicate your feelings and bond on common areas of interest.
Do what it takes to make her feel loved
This goes beyond kissing and cuddling. Sometimes surprisingly enough, feelings that even the priciest of diamonds fail to express to your lover can be conveyed through a small personalised love note. Find out how your lady wants to be wooed. What leaves her speechless? What renders her in a bad need of a tight hug from you? And what makes her want to melt in your arms? A walk in a moonlit garden, listening to her without interruption or maybe just looking at her every now and then with eyes full of love and admiration for her...can be the simplest, yet trickiest moves to seduce her senses! It is all about time!
Observe her...
After years of being together, most of us start taking our partners for granted. Why does that happen? Answers Bakshi, "It often happens that partners get so tied up in their hectic schedules that giving a patient glance to their better half or taking the time to shower her with compliments become rare, thus leading to a loss of sexual desire at times." So, if you want to tickle her mood the right way, start noticing the slightest changes in her appearance. Open your heart and shower her with compliments every now and then, without waiting for special occasions.
Speak your mind...
Men have a tendency to assume that their girlfriend/wife knows how and what they feel about them, how much they love and care for them. But what they fail to realise is the fact that putting words into their thoughts often, will only make their partners feel adored. "I realised the magic of words on the day when casually while sipping our bed tea, I told my wife that she was great in bed last night. Not only could I see that blushing, but surprisingly enough she prepared herself the whole day so as to give me another memorable experience the following night. There was everything from flowers, wine and chocolates and her ofcourse," relates Madhur Gupta, a Mumbai-based marketing professional. So, get out of the cocoon of 'she knows it all' and share what you love about your girl explicitly and you are bound to see her shunning all inhibitions and getting ready to have another round of sex with you.
So, go ahead and try the magic of 'emotional sex' to make her long for you and yearn for your touch.
LOVESUTRA
